If you are a
lady, thirty years and over and yet to tie the nuptial knot and living in Nigeria,
then somebody might have suggested that you are under a curse and probably need
to go for deliverance at the Mountain of Fire and Miracles church. I have found
this suggestion quite confusing and so began to ask the question – ‘Is every
spinster in her thirties under a curse? After some soul searching, it turns out
that my answer is: YES!
Not exactly the answer the ladies were expecting but you are under the curse of a POOR ECONOMY that has caused several women to
become bread winners, and men afraid of commitments.
The same
curse placed on thousands of Bankers (formerly the most eligible bachelors) who
have been today rendered jobless.
The same
curse placed on today’s Men in their thirties that they cannot dream of
building their own houses when most of our parents at thirty owned at least one
house.
The same
curse that has driven several young Nigerians abroad in search of greener
pastures when the majority of our parents grew up, schooled in Nigeria and
could afford a decent life here.
The same
curse that sees most people scrambling to own a foreign passport.
The same
curse which has led most couples to settle for not more than two kids because
of the fear of not being able to cater for them when most of our parents had four kids
on average.
YES, we SINGLES (whether
– male or female) are all under that curse called poverty.
What however
baffles me though is that everyone puts pressure on the Spinster. Why not the Bachelor
in his thirties? Who says he doesn’t also need to be delivered of an ancestral
curse?
While evil
lives among us, the reality is that our economy has deteriorated very badly and
so our men are becoming more individualistic. A lot of bachelors are saying “I can’t
foot my bills let alone bear the burden of a spouse”. Women are more educated
and are saying, “Rather than starve while waiting for Mr. Right to show up,
I’ll work hard to build a career.” And as Dr. Myles Monroe said in one of his
teachings, all the energy the women are supposed to use to support their
spouses as ‘Help meets’ they are putting into their career. So is that such a
bad thing that she is now called, CURSED?
Truth is
times have changed. Once upon a time Nigerian women got married at 18 years,
after sometime they began to get married in their twenties, today some women
are getting married in their thirties. Some say 30 is the new 20.
Whatever,
the case, another reality is that not all will get married, not all who get
married will have children so just take each day as it comes and live life.
And according to a quote my friend Dante has
on his desk:
“If you are waiting for the love of your
life, STOP; they will be waiting when you starting doing what you love”.
